It was Feedback Week on Married at First Sight (MAFS) 2025, and naturally, Jacqui Burfoot and Ryan Donnelly found a way to give us whiplash, with Jacqui penning an absolutely brutal feedback letter to her husband.
Lucky for us, in true Jacqui fashion, she went completely rogue and dropped nearly the entire Feedback Week letter to Ryan on social media. And it’s a lot.
In the Insta post, Jacqui claimed she only had 10 minutes to write the letter, but wasted no time in compiling what her partner-swap husband Jeff Gobbels pretty aptly described as “two and a half pages of negative stuff about the relationship.”
While some of the text was crossed out (which is no fun), the remaining Feedback Week letter paints a rather *concerning* picture for Jacqui and Ryan.
What does Jacqui’s Feedback Week letter say?
Let’s start with the good because, yes, surprisingly there was some.
“Dear Ryan,
“The good. I love how much fun we can have even after an issue is solved,” Jacqui’s letter to Ryan begins.
“We may move forward at different paces, but you balance me out and take things slower at times. I love taking photos with you, videos, reading tarot, creating content, and dancing/being a goofball. You don’t judge and don’t take yourself too seriously either. I couldn’t dream of a better content partner.”
“Our shared entertainment interests are a match made in heaven. You take an interest in my love of fashion and let me help dress you. We both put in our 100% effort, are genuine, and have more resilience than 10 ordinary people. You make me smile a lot and genuinely want to make me happy. Your heart tries its best.”
Sweet, right? Well, that’s where the niceties end.
The *Concerns*
Jacqui’s seemingly unending list of “concerns” is where things really take a turn.
She starts off with money woes:
“Ryan, I am concerned that you don’t have a stable and predictable career. I am concerned that you financially contribute less and I will be the primary breadwinner, putting you in a place you don’t want to be — the primary caregiver.”
She also has strong feelings about Ryan’s masculinity complex:
“I am concerned you have built your sense of self on top of outdated beliefs about power and masculinity. Your extreme sense of masculine pride and fragile ego are difficult to deal with and come at my expense. When your ego or masculinity dominance is challenged, you overreact, escalate conflict, and create chaos that deflects from the original nerve hit.” Oof.
But it doesn’t stop there!
Jacqui accuses Ryan of using her as a “punching bag” whenever his dominance is questioned. She also calls out his rigid views on gender roles and “problematic” beliefs about stay-at-home dads.
And just when you thought it couldn’t get more brutal:
“I still haven’t seen any critical thinking skills from you. I need you to always be open to questioning your own beliefs and start with the assumption you aren’t and nobody is perfect. We have 50 years plus to learn and get things right, and even then, we can die still being unsure. My biggest love fear is marrying a man that ends up stubborn and stuck in his own ways as the world moves on.”
She also hits him with this line, which is honestly hilarious:
“Your opinions might be wrong and that’s okay — in fact, a lot of yours need some more work.”
But wait, there’s more!
In the post, Jacqui teased that she’ll be uploading a video of herself reading it out loud in case anyone can’t read her handwriting.
Meanwhile, Ryan didn’t take the criticism lightly, firing back in the episode: “I will never be a stay-at-home dad. It’s insulting for you to think you’d even consider that.”
Apparently, he “want[s] to leave a legacy.”
Okay, Ryan, best of luck with that. And best of luck to both of them, because it sure looks like they’re going to need it!
