The iconic and forever relatable TV Series Sex and the City shares some fabulous and heart-wrenching philosophy on single life, relationships, sex, and friendships. Even though the group of women are thirty-something, living in New York city and have a wonderfully witty vocabulary that most of us couldn’t keep up with, their personal highs and lows are in fact deeply empathetic to us all. Here are ten Sex and the City quotes to hold onto when your Aussie-version of Berger breaks up with you via a post-it note. Oh the shame…
‘Men who are too good looking are never good in bed because they never had to be.’ Carrie
True. We can all think of a time when we had out-of-this-world, mind blowing sex with a guy who you wouldn’t exactly say is the next Chris Hemsworth; yet, the ones who do look like movie-star quality will actually the ones who will suck in bed. They never had to master sex to attract a woman. Charlotte’s situation is the prime example of this. Trey was attractive to Charlotte and exactly her type yet he couldn’t even ‘pull anchor,’ and Harry who is not-so good looking was the best sex Charlotte ever had.
‘Maybe we can be each other’s soul mates. And then we can let men be just these great, nice guys to have fun with.’ Charlotte
In this episode there is a lot of Carrie ‘wondering’ if the idea of soulmates is nice in theory or if it sets us up for failure. Personally, I’m with Mr. Big on this one – “I like the word soul, I like the word mate; other than that, you got me.” When in doubt, choose best mates to take role of soul mates because guys will come and go, but sisterhood will live forever.
‘When men attempt bold gestures, generally it’s considered romantic. When women do it, it’s often considered desperate or psycho.’ Carrie
Okay yes, this show was around in the noughties, and yes times are changing and women are tending to break the laws of sexism which is great; but it’s true that women are still holding back from taking initiative due to the backwards, eye-rolling social stigma of this behaviour coming off as desperate. It isn’t desperate, it’s moving things on just a little more quickly…
‘The most important break up rule: no matter who broke your heart, or how long it takes to heal, you’ll never go through it without your friends.’ Carrie
And thank God for that.
‘You and I are like that red wall. It’s a good idea in theory, but somehow it doesn’t quite work.’ Carrie
We’ve all had a past relationship where you think back on how great you both seemed on paper, but in reality you just didn’t quite mesh together.
‘Sexy is what I try to get them to see me as after I win them over with my personality.’ Miranda
Miranda might not win the popularity vote for favourite SATC character, but she definitely wins the feminist vote. Something we can take from Miranda’s progressive theories (and cynical sarcasm as well if you like) is her attitude towards how she will let men treat her. She won’t put on a sugar-coated persona to get the guy to like her; she stays her true self and says what they see is what they get – and honestly, some guys seem to love it! Afterall, personality is the sexiest trait of them all.
‘Oh please, there’s always a competition with an ex, it’s called ‘who’ll die miserable?’ Samantha
Samantha’s might be trouble, but she’s almost always right; you can’t deny how little or how much you may want your ex to struggle after the ugly break up.
‘He doesn’t even know me, the least he could do is get to know me before he rejects me.’ Miranda
Especially in the age of Tinder and Bumble, we are constantly being rejected by people who haven’t even taken more than three text exchanges before ghosting! Lame.
‘Being single used to mean that nobody wanted you. Now it means you’re pretty sexy and you’re taking your time deciding how you want your life to be and who you want to spend it with.’ Carrie
This is one of Carrie’s best quotes. There is no rush in getting hitched, especially in your twenties, and it’s important to take the time to enjoy yourself before finding someone with a little bit more quality than the last person you dated. It’s like going from a Maccas Quarter Pounder to a tasty chicken salad; it’s healthier and ultimately better for you.
‘Maybe the past is like an anchor holding us back. Maybe you have to let go of who you were to become who you will be.’ Carrie
Letting go of negative energy from past relationships, habits and toxic friendships will honestly do you wonders. If you aren’t content with how things are in your life, it’s time for that change – and what better time than the new year?